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Kris notes 4/15/18

The Original Definition of Courage: It’s from the latin word KER which means HEART. It was to share your whole story with your whole heart. An Act of courage with an act of storytelling. SO MUCH YES!!!!

“The ego” is the ‘hustler’. The ego says to me: “you have no inherent worth, you gotta hustle for it”, How fast are you going to run? how high are you going to jump?

We now live in a culture that measures our worth based on how many ‘likes’ & ‘comments’ we get.(seriously? I get it…. This is absurd. These damn phones are killin’ us)

We are a ‘scarcity culture’. Never enough. Never good enough thin enough, rich enough, safe enough, certain enough. We are afraid. We have a deep deep fear in our culture.  We somehow internalized that fear. We have a thin film of terror wrapped around us. If its not im not safe enough or secure enough, its im not liked enough, im not promoted enough, im not loved enough, SCARCITY: I DONT HAVE ENOUGH, I AM NOT ENOUGH. At the very bottom.

The number 1 casualty of a scarcity culture is: VULNERABILITY. We shut down. “Im not going to let you know that im not all together”

Vulnerability is not just about fear, grief, and disappointment, its the birthplace of EVERYTHING we are hungry for. Everything we need. Joy, creativity, love, innovation, happiness, innovation etc.

There is no innovation & creativity without FAILURE. We have to be open enough to take the RISK to FAIL




Vulnerability short animation with Brene Brown+ some of my thoughts


Feeling vulnerable, imperfect, and afraid is only human. It’s when we loose our capacity to hold space for these struggles.

We become dangerous. That’s one way to describe what is happening to us in our culture. We have no space to be honest about that, to be vulnerable, imperfect and afraid TOGETHER. On a micro level as individuals, w are not our best selves in fear, and collectively we certainly are not our best selves in fear. We’ve grown weary. We are sick and tired of being afraid. Is there a silent growing majority? Of people who who are simply thinking at a basic human level: “I don’t want to spend my days like this”.  “I don’t want to spend every ounce of energy I have, ducking and weaving”. These type of people are onto something.

We cannot move forward without some honest conversations, about who we are when we’re in fear, and what we’re capable of doing to each other when we’re afraid.

It’s not just that the things that go wrong for us are part of our “wholeness”, the vulnerability, keeps us in. What goes wrong for us is part of our gift to the world. It’s what enables us to connect, and be compassionate. It’s a lovely way to think about the HARD possibly excruciating upside of the fact that so many of us are struggling and suffering right now.

One of the deepest paradoxes about vulnerability is: When I meet you, vulnerability is the very first thing I try and find in you, and its the very last thing I want to show you in me. Vulnerability is the glue that holds connection together. It’s all about our common humanity.

When we own our stories, and share our stories with one another, and we see ourselves reflected back in the stories of people in our lives, we know we’re not alone. This is the ‘heart’ of wholeheartedness. This is the nature of connection.

To be able to see myself, and hear myself, and learn more about myself, in the stories we tell about our experiences.

Brene Brown’s stories and research/teachings have helped me survive some of the most difficult times in my life, and made me feel much less alone. I have heavily studied her for quite some time now, watching her videos over and over and over again always picking up something I didn’t see before. We have all carried some level of shame at some point in our lives. It’s only human for us to seek connection, yet we are afraid of showing who we truly are. Being vulnerable is the only way to finding true connection. Connecting with others in a wholehearted way can help release the burden of fear. I have certainly found comfort in some of the most uncomfortable conversations ive ever had with others, and myself.

Dear Mama…

Dear mama….

When I was young
me and my mama had beef
Seventeen years old
kicked out on the streets
Though back at the time
I never thought I’d see her face
Ain’t a woman alive
that could take
my mama’s place
Suspended from school
and scared to go home
I was a fool
With the big boys
breakin all the rules
I shed tears
with my baby sister
over the years we was poorer
than the other little kids
And even though
we had different daddies
the same drama
When things went wrong
we’d blame Mama
I reminisce on the stress I caused
it was hell
huggin on my mama
from a jail cell
runnin’ from the police
Mama catch me
put a whoopin to my backside
And even as a crack fiend, Mama
You always was a queen, Mama
I finally understand
For a woman it ain’t easy
tryin’ to raise a man
You always was committed
A poor single mother
on welfare
tell me how you did it?
There’s no way
I can pay you back
but the plan is to
show you that I understand
you are appreciated

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Deepest Thoughts

real talk… 

its all about
expanding perception
raising our level of awareness
raising our level of consciousness
changing the way we live and love
love like it’s the only thing you know
at the end of the day
all this means nothing
this page
where you’re sitting
your degree
your job
your house
your car
all the money in the world
none of it matters
except love and human connection
relationships you have with people
who you love
and how deeply you love them
how you touch the lives of people around you
and how much you enriched their lives
family, friends, strangers,
quality of connection
connection is why we’re all here
it’s how we’re wired
it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives

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Brené Brown on Blame + more

Kris notes

Short story by Brené- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZWf2_2L2v8

kris notes- 4-3-18

When something goes wrong, we tend to aim outward and try and figure out “whos fault is this?” – We have all done this at some point or another in our lives.

Brene proceeds to tell a story about spilling a 2nd cup of coffee on herself which is just hilarious. Lol. Essentially the story goes like this: She spills coffee on herself and ends up blaming her husband steve because if he had come home earlier the night before, she wouldn’t have had the 2nd cup of coffee, therefore she would not have had the opportunity to spill it. Classic blame game 101.

Brene is such a good storyteller. This story is absolutely f’ing hilarious.

How many of us go to that place? When something bad happens, the first thing you want to know is who’s fault is it? (I know I have)

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Brené Brown on Empathy VS Sympathy

Kris notes


Kris notes. omggggggg

What is empathy? And why is it very different from sympathy?

Empathy drives CONNECTION.- Putting yourself in the other persons shoes

Sympathy drives DISCONNECTION.- Understand from your own perspective

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Brene Brown- Shows You How To Brave the Wilderness

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Kris notes 4-2-18

Brene is becoming a cultural ICON(what you mean becoming, she already IS baby!!!), Woo!!!!!! This information could change your life! Woo!! Top 5 viewed TED talks in the world with over 30 million views??? DID NOT KNOW THAT!! I mean seriously, who spends 16 years studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy???? BRENE THAT’S WHO!! #likeaboss. I can feel the love resonating through the computer screen!! It’s taken me a long time to really realize southern accent from teeeeexas.

Okay….okay….. getting to the real stuff now…..

What does true belonging mean? What does it mean to belong?

200,000 pieces of data- in the absence of love and belonging THERES ALWAYS SUFFERING.

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Brene Brown- The price of invulnerability TEDxKC

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kris notes 3-23-18

I seriously think I am in love with Brene Brown. I cannot stop watching her videos! Her TED talks. I think this is the 5th~ one, and ive seen them like 5 times each. I have spent hours upon hours studying vulnerability. I get this overwhelming sensation that overtakes me every time I watch her presentations. ITS SO VALUABLE!!! I am in awe. You know that face when your jaw drops, mouth opens and your breath is taken away? Yeah that happened to me about 10 times in the 15 minutes watching this. In fact, ill go a step further.

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