Deepest Thoughts

real talk… 

its all about
expanding perception
raising our level of awareness
raising our level of consciousness
changing the way we live and love
love like it’s the only thing you know
at the end of the day
all this means nothing
this page
where you’re sitting
your degree
your job
your house
your car
all the money in the world
none of it matters
except love and human connection
relationships you have with people
who you love
and how deeply you love them
how you touch the lives of people around you
and how much you enriched their lives
family, friends, strangers,
quality of connection
connection is why we’re all here
it’s how we’re wired
it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives

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Normal People VS Weird People

the meme…lol

Thought it was an interesting read. Thoughts welcomed.

Kris notes- lol at the meme

Have you ever been called: Weird, strange, eccentric, touched, odd, off, or different? If so, did you reevaluate or second guess yourself? Were you offended or hurt? Did you consider the source?

Personally, I’ve been called all of those things.I’ve also been through the entire gamut of emotions about it. At times it hurt (when I knew that it was coming from a malicious place, pretty difficult to offend me). It has also caused me to second guess myself, even though I am now and have always been a very confident and secure person. Before letting the insult manifest itself too deeply inside of me, I considered the source.

Define “Normal”, Please…

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Drop the Façade!

time to throw away the mask…

Drop the Façade!- My notes

This is about becoming our truest selves. Allowing ourselves to be deeply seen without fear of unacceptability. I want to be known, and I want to be loved for who I am. Trust & Truth. I want to have more genuine life experiences. I can’t be authentic with others if I am not authentic with myself. Vulnerability is the core of 2018 for me. I still remember the day I googled “vulnerability” and Brene Brown popped up. One of the best days of my life. At first I was entirely overwhelmed by her TED talks, but I soon embraced them. I want to face uncomfortable emotions, have a deeper well being. I am so focused right now I could do some push ups! Woo! 2018 is going to be a ground breaking year for me. I just FEEL it. I want so much out of this life I am willing to face anything and everything. I have so much to offer. Sometimes its hard to write/type my thoughts. I wish I had someone I could tell them to. Maybe someone like me who is working toward the same goals? I dunno.

“We are what we pretend to be. So we must be careful what we pretend to be.” – Kurt Vonnegut

 

Are you the fun friend or the smart one at work; the successful kid or the perfect girlfriend? Many of us wear masks, even present multiple facades in our daily lives, but why?

We may be avoiding knowing our true self or we may know who we are, deep down, but are afraid to share it. Whether facades represent an alienation from self, a compelling need to please, or a veiled self loathing, those buried under their facades risk both isolation and loss of authentic self.

Spending time, unaware of how we are cloaked in facade, can erode knowledge of our genuine character. We may begin to mistake our false fronts as our real selves and risk letting material wealth, looks, or accomplishments become definers of personal worth.

Those who know themselves, but hide it out of a need to please, fear of rejection, or self loathing face an even greater risk — isolation.If you know your authenticity, but never show it, than no one can ever truly know or love you. This can lead to some grim results as facades are often implicated in suicide, specifically in those who lose work identity, superficial beauty or deny their sexuality.

The personal journey towards authenticity begins with the shedding of layers that don’t reflect our truth. And this journey leads us toward having more genuine experiences and being seen out in our everyday lives. Becoming authentic is also about aligning what you say, what you do, and who you are.

Here are some steps to help you drop the act, open up and become more authentic.

We must see our false fronts – Many of us have been building facades since childhood, putting on new masks for extracurricular’s, peer groups, teachers and parents. Look back on your life and notice the inconsistencies and disappointments as they often point to mismatches between our true and projected selves. Why didn’t you go to the college of your choice? Why are you still in a less than ideal job? Why do you feel awkward in certain situations?

Work towards a deeper understanding about your intentions and actions.

We must discern our authenticity – Once you recognize facades, think critically about what’s behind them. Learn to separate your own point of view from other people’s expectations. Ask yourself about your values, goals and ideals and then consider what is required for following the principles you believe. What facades stand in the way of your intentional actions?

For example, does being a good daughter mean you can’t move out of state, even though your ideal career requires it? Does being a responsible father mean you can’t start the business of your dreams?  Isolate the authentic longing and values embedded in these dilemmas. It can be scary, but let yourself be heard.

We must be willing to be vulnerable(my new favorite word!!!!!) – There are many reasons we hide authenticity, but the big ones are fear of rejection and failure. We’ve all had moments of being genuine and getting hurt, and these moments serve as foundations to our facades.

Popular researcher, BrenéBrown(WOOOOO!!!!! My girl brenewowowo wo*fist bump* Yeah WOOO!!), has dedicated her life to research on vulnerability and has found that those who embrace these uncomfortable emotions find their authenticity and a deeper well being. And this, ultimately, is why we must work to drop the facades. No one wearing a million masks, being different things all day for different people, can experience a sense of centered well being.

Elizabeth Kubler Ross gives us these words to live by:

“Our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are.”

HU

Dear Mother

I don’t know
maybe I would write you
a happy ending
I would rearrange the pieces
to your sad beginning
I would put you far away
from the decaying roots
that bore you
and let you experience
all the ways that happiness
could bloom before you
or maybe I’m naive
maybe I’m just a kid
who thought that
if he could plant a seed
It would somehow grow inside you…..

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