How do I live?

How do I want to live?


Changing my paradigm is the only way to bridge the gap between how I’m currently living and how I want to live.



I need to reevaluate what believe and think.

Change is inevitable, it’s never going to stop

“Most people tip toe through life, hoping to make it safely to death”- NOOOOOO way!!!!! I don’t want this. F that noise!
“In times of change, the learners will inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that NO LONGER EXISTS”
My mind has brought me everything I have. My relationships, my work, my philosophy of life. My thoughts dictate my actions, and my actions dictate who I am, what I do & say. What I succeed & fail at. It all starts with a thought.☁
“Whatever the mind can conceive, and believe, it can achieve. No matter how many times you’ve failed in the past”
The more I study me, the more I’m going to find that my belief system is based on my evaluation of something. The more I evaluate myself, the more I will believe in myself.
“If I want to be free, I gotta be me, not the me you think I should be, my wife thinks I should be, my kids think I should be, but ME!, and I have to find out who me is.”
I need to learn to adapt to the change that’s taking place. 
Thinking is when I take a power that’s flowing through my consciousness, that’s flows to, and through me, and I originate thoughts, put the thoughts together, and create an idea.
If I can create an idea in my mind, I can hold it in my hand.
“The illiterate of the 21st century are not going to be the people who can’t read or write, they’re going to be the people who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.”- POWERFUL

We are all controlled by paradigms. 

What is a paradigm?

  • A paradigm is a mental program that has almost exclusive control of my habitual behavior, think of this, virtually all of my behavior is habitual.
  • Paradigms are a multitude of habits passed down from generation to generation.
  • Paradigms are the way I view myself, the world and opportunity.
  • Paradigms are how I approach change and challenges.
  • Paradigms are my autopilot.
  • Paradigms are the hinge that the better life swings on.

Paradigms are responsible for almost every single thing I have in my life right now … causing me to live the same way I always have, day after day, year after year, getting the same results – not realizing how close I actually are to a breakthrough.

If who I am today is much the same as it was two years ago, then it will be the same two years from now if the paradigm doesn’t shift.


The key to freeing myself from these Paradigms, or mental programming, is awareness and understanding of them. Couple that with a little bit of faith and im on my way to real and true FREEDOM!
Mentally, financially, in my relationships, in every area of my life – FREE AT LAST!
“Faith based on understanding is the true key to freedom – blind faith is useless. The first bump in the road it’s gone.”

When I’m doing something that’s out of the ordinary, the paradigm will try and stop me – if I want to win, I have to keep going. I can find my paradigms masked in complacency, fear, worry, anxiety, insecurities, self-doubt, mental hurry and self-loathing – the result is keeping ME STUCK, locked in a box … starved of my dreams and ambitions.This change is not easy, but it is worth it – and the results are lasting.


Here’s the truth, upgrading my mental programming, changing my paradigms is not easy and I didn’t learn how to do this in school – so it’s not common practice.

Changing my paradigms across the board is quite possibly the most valuable piece of information needed to live a fulfilling life.

“There’s such a phenomenal opportunity for the person who understands them-self, how their paradigm was formed, and how that paradigm can be changed. Without this knowledge, opportunity will continually go right past them.”

Time to change your paradigms Kris….. You’ve got 6 gears and your stuck in 3-4. Time to shift to the next level…
“If I want to be free, I need to be me, and I need to know who me is”
Time to find out who you really are Kris…
Time to ask yourself these hard questions…
Embrace the discomfort in the complexity ring.

Imagine you’re on the subway. People are sitting quietly, some reading books, newspapers, some quiet in thought. Some sleeping. Then, a man and his children get on at a stop. The kids were so loud, so obnoxious, going wild. The man sits down next to you and closes his eyes. Seemingly oblivious to the situation. His children yelling, throwing things, touching people etc. Yet, the man did absolutely nothing. His eyes closed, head down. It would be difficult not to feel at best slightly irritated, frustrated, at worst, angry right? How could this man be so insensitive to everyone and let his children act this way and do nothing about it? Taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see everyone else on the subway was irritated as well.

So finally, you turn to him and say “Excuse me sir, your children are disturbing a lot of people, can you please control them a little more?” The man lifts his face, seemingly coming to consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly- “Oh, you’re right, I should probably do something about this. We just came from the hospital, their mother, my wife, just died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, handle this and I guess they don’t know how to handle it either”


Can you imagine what you would feel in that moment? You would suddenly see things in an entirely different perspective in a mere fraction of a second. You would think and feel differently. Feelings of compassion, sympathy/empathy would completely take over.

Everything would change in an instant.

This short story a few years ago really resonated with me, and helped me see so many things from a entirely different perspective in so many areas of my life. It really helped me develop something I believe I had somewhat lacked in my life: Empathy.

One of the major destructive paradigms buried in my mind practically my whole life was- “how could my biological father leave me as an infant?”. I didn’t see him for the first time until I was 13. he stayed 2 months, and then left again. “How could somebody do this to a child?”, “Why me??”. This situation created an immense amount of motivation throughout my life to ‘succeed’.(I look at the definition to success far different than society as a whole, not entirely money based).

It wasn’t until my late 20’s I realized I had essentially capped out, I needed to make peace with this situation, to grow in order to progress forward significantly. I couldn’t just plow through things anymore, I actually had to work things out. I had to become one with uncomfortable feelings. 17 years later I seeked him out, to forgive. It was in that moment, when paradigm shifted entirely. As I looked in his eyes, I could see HIS pain pouring out of his skin. I could feel his words. He was just a kid, still is a kid, even at 49. There was never any malicious intent. Not one single time did I ever stop to think about how HE was feeling. It was always about me. From that moment on, I learned a very valuable principle, and I try and execute whenever possible. Never come to conclusions quickly.

During this process I ended up meeting two of my aunts I had never known.(In pics). One of them I have established a bond with close to that of my own mother, in some ways surpassing. This all started with a decision, to shift a paradigm. It also taught me a lot about the significance of vulnerability. Vulnerability is not weakness, and that myth is profoundly dangerous.

“Seek first to understand before being understood”

“We always have control of our thoughts and actions”

The #lawofattraction is always working
The mind
#Conscious mind
The ability to #think  #Ideas
Y type idea
The educated mind
#Subconscious mind
The emotional mind
Wide open when a baby/child
X type conditioning
Paradigm controls the #vibration we’re in
How we act
What we #attract
The body is a mass of energy
Change results
#Change what we attract
Everything operates on frequencies
What we attract
Discomfort= #growth
We attract
Energy in #harmony with us
People in harmony with us
Things on the same frequency
Focus on what you want
Instead of what you DONT want
Thoughts control the vibration we’re in
Which dictates what we attract in our lives, everyday
When we think a Y type idea In our conscious mind
If the X type conditioning in our subconscious mind exists
It isn’t going to go anywhere
The paradigm will kick it out
#Power always flowing through our consciousness
Infinite energy
The baby mind
The subconscious mind of a baby is WIDE OPEN
It will take anything and everything
Paradigms develop
Changing the paradigms we have developed over time
In our subconscious mind
Will dictate what we attract
In our lives
eliminate the negative thoughts boo!
And reprogram our mind
With positive thoughts yay!
More of
I say again
Our #thoughts control the vibration we are in.
Our vibration dictates how we feel.
How we feel dictates what we attract in our lives.
What we attract will yield the results we get
want to change our results right?
We want to #grow right?
You’ll never hear: I’m operating in negative vibration
You’ll hear: I do not feel good, I am sick, or I am depressed.
You’ll never hear: I am operating in a #positive vibration
You’ll hear: I am happy, I feel good, I am grateful, I feel #healthy
We all have the ability to control what we think about
It’s #fundamental
We by default attract more of what we think about
Once we think a new thought a #newidea
we must get emotionally involved with that idea for it to STICK
in our subconscious mind
Change paradigms or nothing changes



Author: Kris

Hi my name is Kris, and I am addicted to personal development, and the word DETERMINATION! :) and BRENÉ BROWN!!! And BRIAN JOHNSON!!! Aaaaaaaand WOOOO!!!! 142.

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