Dr. Wayne Notes 7-30-2020 Session

Notes 7-30-2020
  • Continuing theme of healing & restoration (particularly relevant since I started taking an SSRI)
  • Remember the emotional triad
    • Physiology easiest to change – disciplines and habits
    • Recruiting your body in the regulation and cultivation of your mind
    • Hold onto intention that restoration is the goal
      • Mustang analogy – when the car is delivered, it needs to look same as when it left Detroit
    • Go back to original intention
    • Re-read Imago family mission statement
    • Cut away and defund everything that is not the vision by creating infrastructure to ensure that your resources are unavailable
  • There are opportunities available, even during the pandemic
  • Find something that feeds the mission, not just the appetite
    • Ie. difference between having sex vs. making love
  • At some point you go from spiritual vision to emotional engineering
  • My emotional, spiritual, and financial priorities are this man/woman sitting next to me
  • Have to have a radical shift in physiology
  • Restoration should be a radical practice vs. a tool you use sometimes
  • People need you for their own emotional regulation, so they’d rather outsource it to you than do the work themselves
  • You want to get rid of people who bring unnecessary drama and strife into your life
  • Proximity gives you access, access gives you impact
    • Who are the kind of people I’m giving access to? Who gives access to me?
    • Who is your mastermind team – “board of directors” – childhood friends, college friends, luminaries
  • Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks, so you realize their intention (those who would rather see you die than rise)
  • 50 Cent’s pain activated his creativity
  • The reason he is so successful is that he tells himself he needs to change and commits to the process of transformation
  • Keep your affirmative vision in front of you, so the rear view doesn’t take over
  • Act in alignment with your vision board
    • If it’s not on there, why are you giving it time or energy
  • Be willing to demote people
  • I’m going to replace you with someone who can do better for a lower cost
  • Opportunities have expiration dates – you want to capitalize on the opportunity of a lifetime within the lifetime of the opportunity
  • When you think you’re at you’re limit, you’re only at 40%
  • Marshall those habits so they become disciplines
  • Differentiate between opiates and ways of life
  • Repetition is the mother of skill before it’s conditioned
  • Ensure that your vision is pursued and your momentum is maintained
  • Your momentum can be shifted by shifting your focus
  • Opportunity costs – anywhere you’re spending money, there’s somewhere else it could have gone
  • Don’t do what’s emotionally satisfying, do what is strategically significant
  • When people provoke you, pivot with the practice of principles
  • Where attention goes, energy flows
  • To outgrow your history, you’ve got to feed your seeds and not your weeds
  • You’ve gotta be so committed to your outcome that you can’t be coopted by someone else’s drama
  • Vampires cannot prey upon us without our invitation (Buffy the Vampire Slayer analogy)
  • How do I participate in my own restoration/how do I practice that I may be restored?
  • What would it be like if your life was the practice of the discipline of the Sabbath?
  • What are the mentalities we need to have to rise above our circumstance?
  • You need to stop submitting to the tyranny of yesterday
  • Storm/Black Panther analogy – it took a voice she loves and trusts to break out of claustrophobia
  • What it looks like when love overcomes fear

Notes from Session with Dr. Wayne 7-9-2020: Let Your Gift Make Room for You

  • Don’t let anybody cause you to come from outside yourself
  • Pivot with principles, don’t react with emotion
  • Remember Habit 4: Think Win-Win
  • Protect and preserve what you found.
  • Trust your own heart, not what you inherited
  • Protect and preserve those who love, nourish, and edify me the most
  • Let go of all unnecessary stress that does not serve you
  • Maybe the old rules don’t apply anymore. Recognize who and what remain the priority
  • If I don’t move poverty out of the way, there’s no room for growth
  • People may say, “Don’t forget where you came from”… I say “Don’t forget where you’re going”
  • If you want to be successful, learn how to accommodate change and do it faster
  • Be so busy chasing tomorrow you ain’t got time to respond to yesterday
  • People may know the facts of your life, but not the story of your life [Dr. Wayne’s personal experiences with friends]
  • Past stories – boring, incriminating, or sad
  • People return to who you were then because they’re not comfortable with who you are now
  • I can love you above the offense, but I lower your priority on my list
  • Act in alignment with your vision board
  • Delete the nonessentials
  • I am so busy pursuing that which feeds me that I don’t have time for that which drains me
  • [Song Reference] – Barry White I Got So Much to Give
  • What can facilitate healing – a change in nutrition or diet [both literally and metaphorically]
  • How do I recover from a lifetime of injury? By nourishing myself differently
  • Lead, love, and live from something other than your wound – from your wisdom
  • The power of humor is the equivalent of a plant based diet
  • When everyone insists that you play checkers, play chess to win the day
  • You know you’re doing something when you get paid and rewarded for being yourself
  • Hold on to your gift and let go of your curse
  • Your gift will make room for you to be who you actually are and bring you before great people. To be who God ordained you to be. In this case, Kris and I are each others’ gift
  • Not just so you can resolve, but so can be restored and then promoted
  • Yesterday can’t talk to tomorrow. A cassette player can’t tell my phone how to play music
  • Don’t let your past block a better idea
  • You represent a psychological, emotional, and spiritual innovation
  • Deal with people from the center and not the margins
  • References in popular culture:
  • Hamilton – a manual on how to make your vision a reality
  • What will happen when your family of origin leaves the stage
  • Examples: Michael Jackson, Lin-Manuel Miranda, Prince
  • Focus on what you need to do to nourish yourself
  • You can spend your time complaining about a bad meal, or you can enjoy a good one
  • Whatever your Hamilton is, put that on your vision board and work toward that with all deliberate speed
  • I don’t have the bandwidth for the blight or the burden or the BS
  • Remember that God does not respond uniformly to my calamity, sometimes he waits to see how I will respond
  • RRP – Recovery, Restoration, Promotion